How many times have we heard the words "Im Grown!" From some young person, as they disrespect an elder, or even some grown person who uses it to justify thier outlandish behavior. If you are truly GROWN, as you state.. you shouldnt need to declare it to everyone who will listen. It should be obvious in the way you walk, talk, act, and carry yourself.
Let's get it straight: There is a big difference between being 'Grown' and being 'Mature'! You HAVE to grow up (older) due to time passing, but Maturity is gained by Wisdom, Self-Control, and doing the Right thing: even when no one us looking! QOTD: Are you a Real Woman/Man...or still just a big KID!? I see alot of 30-50 year old who are still immature, and have seen some teens who are respectful, mature, and extremely wise.
See...most time it's the people who love to say 'Im 'grown'' that are still behaving like 6 year olds:
Throwing temper tantrums, lying, and gossiping even well into their 30's and 40's. How can we expect the next generation to learn what it is to be mature if we don't role model it ourselves!? WE have grown men who refuse to work, sit around playing video games all day, and allow themselves to be supported by the women in thier lives. I know women who leave thier kids home and party at the club, dress younger than thier teen daughters, and fight in the streets like female hoodlums at 40.
When is it time to grow up? The bible says: 'When I was a child, I spoke and thought and reasoned as a child. But when I grew up, I put away childish things.'-1 Cor 13:11.
Leave the games for the children.
I'm not saying dont ever play video games....but there is a difference between playing games for entertainment every once in a while, and Addiction for escape of reality. I knew a man who once left his family, and took his son's X-Box with him! (Including the games)....and if you are unemployed and doing it, that makes it even worse.
I think in these days and times, roles and responsibilities are forgotten, and considered ancient, and sexist.
Much of the things our grandparents used to do just because they were real MEN and WOMEN are today looked on as 'old school' ...and outdated. And in many cases, because there are so many teen parents, the fundamentals are not even being taught anymore. Girls cant cook, boys cant tie a tie or even take out the trash. Children are left to thier own devices. We have these grown 'Independant' Woman, 'Irresponsible' Men' Syndromes and a lot of hurt and lost children somewhere in between. Many teens are 'Wilding Out', and we wonder what is going on...but then the parents show up, and they act ten times worse. Sometimes the kids are only acting out the examples that they see in thier own lives, growing up.
Wisdom and SELF-CONTROL is key. Self control can be applied to all areas: Words, actions and deeds.
I think it is extremely mature to show restraint against your fleshly urges, and immaturity is running around satisfying every physical need that you feel, because the urge hits you. Not to say that controlling your desires is EASY...but we have brains, thoughts and conscience for a reason. And God made us a creation able to make a Choice of right and wrong. Animals dont have this...they simply act on instinct. Birds dont have a choice whether to fly south for the winter, or build a nest. Dogs dont have a choice but to mate when they are in heat. Some of us need to realize that we are not common animals that have to continue in self-serving, lustful behavior with the excuse that 'it just happened.' and start make conscious decisions on whether to do right vs. wrong. And if by some chance we chose to do what's wrong: instead of pretending that it's not wrong... we need to take responsibility for those choices and not blame shift, lie, and conceal our deeds, as children often do.
There is a study called The Stanford Marshmallow Experiment (1972) indicates that good impulse control is psychologically important for academic achievement and for success in adult life. It's called an 'emotional IQ' test. They perform it on Kindergartners to show whether or not these kids will be responsible and mature citizens later on in life, its also called 'The Marshmallow test'. They tell the child that they can have one marshmallow now, or wait ten minutes and get three marshmellows later, and they leave the room for ten minutes. The kids who wait and act with self control for the greater prize later, showed maturity and higher thinking and reasoning skills as adults.
This is the same way with us now. If we can delay gratification now for the better prize later, (including pre-marital sex, and inappropriate relationships) we are truly more mature. Self-control is a GREAT sign of maturity, and anyone who says it is not...is probably immature themselves.
TIME TO GROW UP!!
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