It's ridiculous..people want to 'villanize' thier partner, and later are shocked when nobody likes or accepts them. and if your partner is so horrible, what does that say about your choices? People need to learn that unless there is abuse or danger involved, they need to keep the drama to themselves and learn to PRAY or seek counselling.
Most times outside people dont want to get involved anyway!
I was 18 when I got married, and still mature enough to know it wouldnt pay to do that. I was married three years, and actually got separated before anyone in my family actually knew we ever argued. It was a shock to all. And when we separated, they still never fully knew why. My mom just said, Im here for you if you need to talk, and left it at that. I always knew that once you blab your business to otheres, they hold the grudge much longer than you ever will! And if you are 'grown' enough to be in an adult relationship-be grown enough to learn conflict resolution and communication!
The bible says Leave and CLEAVE, Leave and CLEAVE...you are supposed to learn to resolve stuff on your own, not drag the whole clan into it. Some women do that so that they can get sympathy, and play the victim. Some men do it so they have an excuse to 'leave' or cheat. Either way, its immature, and wrong. You end up making it impossible to be together peacefully.
ONCE YOU LET EVERYONE IN, YOU CANT GET THEM BACK OUT!
..And a special 'shame on you' to those grown adults who involve thier kids in thier fighting. Attempting to turn the kids against the spouse, or other parent. That is the lowest level of immaturity possible. Keep your kids out of your business as well, before you scar them for life...you need to grow up TWICE.
#keepittoyourself #growup
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