Are you a 'People Pleaser' ?!?

"I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure: which is: Try to please everybody."
-- Herbert B. Swope. 

 When are we going to learn that trying to please 'people' will only result in frustration, bitterness, exhaustion, and feeling 'used'?  Sometimes you take care of others and neglect yourself.  But in the end... those people you pour into will continue to demand more out of you, and be ungrateful for your 'sacrifices'.  It is truly 'people bondage', because you are enslaved by your devotion to others, and your mood is determined by how they treat you in return. Then, when you are not doing what they want, they will turn on you in a minute.

Over time, you become a 'martyr', telling anyone who will listen how much you do, and how no one appreciates you. If you are honest: you will admit that you somewhat enjoy the sympathy of others, and you listen to advice telling you to cut these folks off and out of your life; but you will never do that, will you?... Because then what will you be able to complain about? You probably think that they NEED you, they cant do things right without your assistance, they will fail if you aren't there, right? But aren't you now taking the place of God in their life? How can they learn to open on him with you always coming to their rescue? Hmmmm.....

Jesus hit the nail on the head when he told busy Martha that sitting at his feet like Mary was more important than all the serving and catering that Martha was doing (and complaining about). The approval of God should be your first and main focus. Learning his ways, becoming more like Him...and teaching others.  When you are most like Him, you could care less what others say or think about you, and you will only help others when and if God leads you to. It is not your job to be everyone's 'Savior'...we already have one of those, and He did the job perfectly!!

My lesson? Don't be caught up in 'people pleasing'..because people will love you one minute, and hate you the next. ~Focus on pleasing God: His love never fails or changes!! ~

 

 

 

You say you want an easy life?

"If everything is smooth sailing right from the beginning, we cant become people of substance and character.By surmounting paining setbacks and obstacles, we create a brilliant history of triumph that will shine forever. Thats what makes life so interesting... In any field of endeavour, those who overcome hardships and grow as human beings are actually advancing towards success and victory in life." ~Daisaku Ikeda

So the question is..if you had to choose: would you rather have an easy life without God in it, or a life full of trials, knowing that God is there with you; molding, shaping and growing you towards His purpose?

I am learning my lesson the hard way. I am learning to appreciate my trials, learn lessons from my failures, acknowledge my struggles and bridges towards my purpose/destiny, and grow from my pain. It is human nature to fight against this, and avoid hurting at all costs...but it will never cause you to become the person that you were truly meant to be. Your TEST will one day be your TESTimony!
I know at this point that my testimony is going to be incredible...because the tests have been almost unbearable. When we were making money and living the 'high life', we found ourselves moving farther away from God, and had less TIME for church and ministry. God will strip us down to the point where we truly only have Him, so there are no excuses to fulfilling our purpose. Once we get there, however, we will feel blessed to have overcome, and bear much 'fruit' from the fire that we endured.

and In the end..all the Glory goes to God: who was there, carrying me throough it all, the entire time.

SELAH!

REAL CHRISTIANS vs. 'Church Folk"

'Dont confuse religious people with ppl who truly have a relationship with God. Religous ppl may know the bible inside out & quote scriptures well...they know about God but they dont know God. They have a form of godliness but no power. they are 'hearers' of the word but not 'doers'. They'll hear: "depart from me...i never knew u". Folks...dont be deceived by 'religious folk'. -C. Hayes'

I was taught that literally one in every four people in Church is truly walking what they believe. Where do I get this statistic? Well...Jesus said it himself...

Jesus spoke in Parables (stories) to explain what God and Heaven were like. In Matthew he describes the story of the sower (farmer) who goes out to plant seeds. In this story the four different types of Christians are detailed, and how they react differently to God's Word. It is very interesting, because you can see these four types in all believers around you...

1) The First type: is the kind that hears the Words, and just dont understand it. Either by choice, or because they choose not to dig deeper, and remain ignorant. The devil will immediately come and snatch that out of his heart (with deceit or some sort of temptation right after they get the Word.) These Christians fall right back into sin immediately. They dont even gt out of the church parking lot before they are cussing out the ushers...lol..Jesus refers to them as seeds thrown along a roadside.

2) The Second type: The kind that hears the word and gets quickly glad and full of joy. They run out to carry it out and are excited and telling folks about Jesus for a few weeks, maybe months. He has no real deep roots though, because he doesnt follow it up with prayer, diligence, and studying, and when trials and hard times come, he falls away and turns on God, no longer trusting him to take care of his needs. Jesus refers to them as seeds thrown on rocky soil.

3) The Third type of Christian hears and understands the Word, but love of money, life, fun, riches and glamour are too much for him to resist. He cant stay in the Word, because he loves the things of the world too much to let go. Lots of celebrities and people who value money alot go into this category. They are tormented because they WANT to do right, but there is overwhelming temptation as well as enablers. Jesus refers to them as seeds thrown among thorns.

4) The fourth type hears, recieves, understands, lives it out, practices, and witnesses the Word to others, therefore growing up other believers, and changing lives around him. Jesus refers to them as seeds thrown on good (fertile and healthy) soil. These are the types of Christians that are not only hearing the Word, they study, pray and apply the Word to thier lives. The bible says this is pleasing to God, and they are ones that overcome when trials and temptations hit.

Dont you see these folks everywhere in the church today? The ones who holler the loudest during service, but curse the worse when they get home. Of the ones who use God to manipulate situations to thier advantage:God as your personal 'matchmaker: Folks using Him to secure a relationship (God SAID we supposed to be together) keep someone from leaving you (You're supposed to stay cuz God said Forgive me) or even worse, to manipulate another's mind (If you was Christian, you would...) Lying on/using God for your own SELFISH purposes~none of this is true Christanity!!
True Christians walk in love. They exhibit the fruits of the spirit shown in Galatians: joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, meekness, gentleness, meekness longsuffering and self-control, and thier 'fruit' are evidence. They have touched lives, healed others, set free, and delivered those in need. They have increased the Kindgom by being a living, breathing example of what God was on this earth.

NOW..Look down deep in your heart. Read the verses to yourself, and meditate.
Then ask yourself then the following Question...
WHICH TYPE OF SEED ARE YOU?

if you are anything but the fourth kind: its time to look in the mirror and honestly decide what you are going to do about that.


I say all of this in L-O-V-E :)



For the actual story...It reads as follows:
THAT SAME day Jesus went out of the house and was sitting beside the sea.
But such great crowds gathered about Him that He got into a boat and remained sitting there, while all the throng stood on the shore.

And He told them many things in parables (stories by way of illustration and comparison), saying, A sower went out to sow.

And as he sowed, some seeds fell by the roadside, and the birds came and ate them up.

Other seeds fell on rocky ground, where they had not much soil; and at once they sprang up, because they had no depth of soil.

But when the sun rose, they were scorched, and because they had no root, they dried up and withered away.
Other seeds fell among thorns, and the thorns grew up and choked them out.

Other seeds fell on good soil, and yielded grain--some a hundred times as much as was sown, some sixty times as much, and some thirty.

He who has ears [to hear], let him be listening and let him [a]consider and [b]perceive and comprehend by hearing.

Then the disciples came to Him and said, Why do You speak to them in parables?

And He replied to them, To you it has been given to know the secrets and mysteries of the kingdom of heaven, but to them it has not been given.

For whoever has [spiritual knowledge], to him will more be given and he will [c]be furnished richly so that he will have abundance; but from him who has not, even what he has will be taken away.

This is the reason that I speak to them in parables: because [d]having the power of seeing, they do not see; and [e]having the power of hearing, they do not hear, nor do they grasp and understand.

In them indeed is [f]the process of fulfillment of the prophecy of Isaiah, which says: You shall indeed hear and hear but never grasp and understand; and you shall indeed look and look but never see and perceive.

For this nation's heart has grown gross (fat and dull), and their ears heavy and difficult of hearing, and their eyes they have tightly closed, lest they see and perceive with their eyes, and hear and comprehend the sense with their ears, and grasp and understand with their heart, and turn and I should heal them.(A)

But blessed (happy, fortunate, and [g]to be envied) are your eyes because they do see, and your ears because they do hear.

Truly I tell you, many prophets and righteous men [men who were upright and in right standing with God] yearned to see what you see, and did not see it, and to hear what you hear, and did not hear it.

LISTEN THEN TO THE MEANING OF THE PARABLE OF THE SOWER:

While anyone is hearing the Word of the kingdom and does not grasp and comprehend it, the evil one comes and snatches away what was sown in his heart. This is what was sown along the roadside.

As for what was sown on thin (rocky) soil, this is he who hears the Word and at once welcomes and accepts it with joy;

Yet it has no real root in him, but is temporary (inconstant, [i]lasts but a little while); and when affliction or trouble or persecution comes on account of the Word, at once he is caused to stumble [he is repelled and [j]begins to distrust and desert Him Whom he ought to trust and obey] and he falls away.

As for what was sown among thorns, this is he who hears the Word, but the cares of the world and the pleasure and delight and glamour and deceitfulness of riches choke and suffocate the Word, and it yields no fruit.

As for what was sown on good soil, this is he who hears the Word and grasps and comprehends it; he indeed bears fruit and yields in one case a hundred times as much as was sown, in another sixty times as much, and in another thirty.

MOPSS: Keeping it REAL-Hurting people HURT people...

I have met several women recently who are extremely rude and believe in telling anyone and everyone around them thier opinions, whether asked or not.  They call this 'being honest', but in actuality they usually like to cut with thier words and make the person they are 'advising' feel bad about themselves. Somehow, this behavior seems to make THAT woman/person feel better about themselves, and so they continue to do it.

We all know that many people nowadays are insensitive to the needs and feelings of others. I have noticed as of late that these are the times of "Keeping it Real" and "Telling it like it is" at the expense of the other persons emotional health and feelings.(ie. Kanye/Taylor Swift incident) No longer is sensitivity training being taught to the next generation, and kids are not realizing the difference Being 'Real', and simply having bad manners and a rude disposition.
...But, on the other hand... these rude, hurtful people could also be hurting themselves inside, and lashing out at others as a result. A vicious cycle, when really examined closely.

I have seen relationship posts on Facebook where women are begging to be loved and understood, and men are turning away and saying 'you are too deep/sensitive for me' and vice versa. There are alot of hurting people out there, mostly being hurt by other hurting people. When does it end, and people treat others with love, compassion and resect?

I love this analogy, "Taken from 'How to comfort the hurting.'..
"If you were treating the open wounds of accident victims you would realize that the most gentle, well-meaning touch could send patients reeling. You would not be offended if someone you were seeking to help lashed out in pain with almost involuntary action. You would half expect it. But imagine the confusion if the wounds were invisible and the person looked uninjured. Consider the further complication if in that person’s experience everyone who had tried to help (and how does he know you will be any different?) had in their ignorance done little but inflict pain.

That’s the norm for someone who is hurting inside.

Emotionally wounded people cannot help but be highly sensitive. Words hit them like whips. It is vital that they be treated verbally with the careful tenderness you would use if you were dressing gaping physical wounds. Once we understand the seriousness of emotional wounds, it’s surprisingly easy to employ the Christlike graces of turning the other cheek and using the soft answer that turns away wrath.
When we realize an outburst is just the pain talking, we no longer take it to heart. Only a fool takes personally the actions of someone drunk with pain."

LOOK AT ME...

For the past 6 years, I have been going into the public schools, teaching abstinence to Middle School students. I have seen it all, I have heard it all!  Young girls with HPV, Syphilis, pregnant, and emotionally broken. It is truly heartwrenching to see this in girls as young as 13. When I was a mentor at the Hope Center, girls as young as 11 were coming in pregnant! And they open up to me like they never have to thier own parents.

They tell me that all they want is 'Love'...someone to look at them and feel as if they are beautiful, unique, and desired. And when the young men will tell them what they want to hear, they are willing to give up every inch of self respect they have...for the temporary pleasure of knowing this feeling. It is now to the point where the girls are becoming 'the aggressors'...and are fighting to be seen and noticed in the eyes of the young men. They feel as if they have to compete with the more promiscuous girls to even have a chance. In the classroom, I attempt to talk to these girls about inner beauty, self-esteem, self-love, and respect of thier bodies, but my talk is only 3 days long....many eventally go home to Neglect, pain and lonliness.

I just feel that if we as mothers, and fathers show our children love and give them compliments and attention-spend a little extra time with them, they dont have to look for it in the arms of a boy/girlfriend. Take the time to tell them that they are special, loved and desired, and that thier bodies are the Holy Temple of God, and should remain PURE until marriage. If they understod who and what thier value was... they would honor themselves more. This is what I alwasy strived to do with my kids. Everyone who knew us, knew that we roll DEEP! Kids, kids' friends, extended family, etc. We put plenty of love in our kids: spelled T-I-M-E. To this day, my daughters (ages 18 and 17 are still virgins by choice.) 

I would love to see more parents step up to the plate. But these days, many parents THEMSELVES are not living a pure, self-controlled life by example! I suppose THEY need to be taught this as well....smh... 

This poem is for the girls-and women- who need to know how special, unique and beautiful you really are: and that your worth is more than rubies and pearls!!! You deserve to be respected, loved and adored. You are a Daughter of the King!!

Look at Me
See my face
Its more than the frame of a pretty smile
Behind these eyes lie
A brain inside, with
Thoughts, and dreams, feelings, and desires
Can you see beyond my admirers?
Can you see?

Look at Me
See my skin
Smooth and black
Or pale as sand
It longs to be touched
And held by compassionate hands
Not slapped and pushed and pulled and grabbed
Notice the colors that were blended to make ME
Don't you know
It takes more than Bruises to break me?
Can you see?


Look at Me
See my hair
Whether silky and straight
Or as tight as wool
It's meant to be caressed
Not grabbed and pulled
It is my strength, my crowning glory
Every strand tells my ancestors' story
Can you see?

Look at Me
My lovely body
Contains a heart
That cares and needs
And beats and bleeds
It hurts when wronged
It breaks and grieves
Its more than something to feed your needs
Can you see?

Look at me
My breasts and hips
Are more than toys
To slap and lick
They're made instead to carry and feed
Future generations of Greatness...
Yes, Indeed!
Yet they are laughingly
Stared at and played with
And thrown in men's faces
And grabbed at and photographed
Displayed on MySpaces
Can you see?


Look at me
My legs, my thighs
My hair, my eyes
Protect the soul
Where beauty lies
Thin or wide
Dark or light
My essence shines
Like heaven's lights
The biggest star
Can't shine as bright
I'm stellar baby
Can you see?
The universe aint got nothing on me…
Look at me!


Look at ME
With more than your eyes
See me just once with your heart
I am more than just the sum
Of bootylicious body parts
Beyond the weave
The Maybelline
The Whitened Teeth
To the heart beneath
Much more than the girl on the video screen
The 'bi***h" or "hoe"
That you perceive
Can you see?

So Really, really, Look at Me
Underneath the surface things you see
My body encases the soul of ME
I am the Daughter of Kings and Queens!
The Love of God created me
Made in the image of The King of Kings
I'm a Mother of Nations, a Helper, a Queen
I was not made
To be a man's PLAYTHING
I deserve a ring, not a one-night fling
When you look at me now
Tell me, what do you see?


Look at me!!
Look at me!!
Look at me!!

2008

Life is like a Box of Chocolates....

Ever watched 'Forrest Gump' and noticed the spiritual story behind it? God is like Forrest, and we are like Jenny. He pursues us with longsuffering love as we turn away and do our 'thing'. We turn to him only in brokenness, and when he heals us, we run again. At the end of the movie, Jenny only comes back when she is dying...and still Forrest loves and forgives her. Wow. Thank you God for loving me-despite me!

Forgiveness starts Within...

"I don't know if I continue, even today, always liking myself. But what I learned to do many years ago was to forgive myself. It is very important for every human being to forgive herself or himself because if you live, you will make mistakes- it is inevitable. But once you do and you see the mistake, then you forgive yourself and say, 'Well, if I'd known better I'd have done better,' that's all."-Maya Angelou

The enemy desires to keep us bound with guilt and accusation. Telling us that our past was too 'bad' that we can never please God, and that what we've done is beyond forgiveness. That is not God. God is LOVE. God forgives and throws our sins, east from west. Meditate on that concept, and know that even while we are sinners, God loves us!! 
Tell the voices in your head, and let Him restore your heart.
Bind up the enemy from your thought life, and quit allowing him to rent space in your head!! 
Evict him today!!

Living with Integrity

"Living with integrity means: Not settling for less than what you know you deserve in your relationships. Asking for what you want and need from others. Speaking your truth, even though it might create conflict or tension. Behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values. Making choices based on what you believe, and not what others believe."-Barbara De Angelis

Becoming a person of character is more than just verbally expressing your beliefs. You can live opposite to what you profess, but you can never live opposite to what you TRULY believe. Here's the test" Do you live what you believe, or is it just 'word-vomit'? 


...shut your mouth, and open your eyes!

thoughts=words=actions=habits=character=destiny




So...what's on YOUR mind most of the time? Hmmmm...

MOPSS: Too Thin Skin!!

Im sorry, but overly sensitive people get under my skin. People you cant say ANYTHING to, without them taking it personal, getting defensive, blame-shifting and throwing a tantrum. Some people need to grow up and learn to take constructive-criticism and advice!

..and its really bad when its men. sometimes you expect some sensitivity out of women, but nothing is more annying than a man who has an 'attitude' Some youth and teens I deal with take advice and correction better than grown people!! The grown ups nowadays dont want NOBODY to tell them ANYTHING! It's crazy I had my husband tell me yesterday that some lady in the family has been mad at me for months because I deleted her as a relative on Facebook. Im like....HUH! A Facebbok fued? Grow up. I never deleted her, in fact: never had her listed as a relative in the first place... but she really never asked me about it or anything...it just travelled thru the family...I dont like being around people that make you feel like you are walking on 'eggshells' every time you open your mouth! SMH!! And how childish to go to family members and complain without going directly to the person that you feel insulted you. WOW.

What are YOU leaving behind?!?

Interesting watching Pam "Foxy Brown' Grier on Oprah. She said that when she was with Richard Pryor, her pelvic exams indicated cocaine in her uterus, and advised her to use protection. ~Do you understand that whatever someone is involved in SHOWS UP in their body fluids and transfers to your body when you are intimate?.that's why we keep telling these kids that every time you have sex with a person, you leave a piece of yourself behind and you take a piece of the other person with you...adults need to know this as well.


Ladies...we are like containers: recepticles. And our sensitive tissues absorb things. The younger we are, the easier they absorb!
ALL body fluids (ie saliva, sperm, and even OUR own secretions) carry DNA, and whatever is in our system. If a man has been a drug user, has carried infection, STD' etc. this stuff is being DEPOSITED into you...even sometimes by SKIN TO SKIN contact, due to flaking of the natural human skin-shedding process. HPV and Herpes are both contagious in this way. We let men DUMP all of thier garbage into us like human trash cans...and we wonder why there are so many new cancers, uterine problems, pelvic issues, infertility clinics, and scarring of our female organs. 
Its no coincidence!! Even with protected sex, please inform others that HPV and Herpes-the easiest to catch, and ones that cause much damage-are still 'cachable'. Skin to skin contact diseases are spread long before intercourse!


#thinktwice

The Heart of a Man

"What a man REALLY needs...what he is looking for...is a Safe Place to put his Heart." -Kieron Cole. 


WOW the conference call with our panel of all-men was wonderful. I loved hearing them open up and reveal what was on the inside without fear of 'retaliation' from the women in thier lives. They really just spoke what we needed to hear as women :) Loved it! There were 61 callers on the line, and I'm thinking that this Conference call line may eventually get bog enough to need radio time :) All the Glory to the Father, it was His idea...I cant take the credit. I just love to moderate and converse. I hope to eventually do a teen talk show, similar to the old 'Teen Summit'..there isn't one out today, but teens need it!! They have so many unanswered questions. Where are they getting the answers? Friends, right off the street. False information that is doing more harm than good.


We need a 'Safe place' for men, women, teens, etc. so that they can open thier hearts up and speak on issues that are relevant and important to them. 


The drama team has been doing wonderful as well. After this Sunday's skit, a girl told Briana that she was considering sex, but is no longer doing so....that's huge! What an impact :) 

MOPSS: A Family Affair?!?!

MOPSS: It amazes me when a couple has an argument, and he/she goes to thier family, telling them EVERYTHING, and wanting pity as they bash thier partner. Then when you make up, you want everyone to 'forget' about it. If you are foolish enough to involve others in your business, just KNOW that you created drama--and now your partner is 'the enemy' for a LOONG time! 


It's ridiculous..people want to 'villanize' thier partner, and later are shocked when nobody likes or accepts them. and if your partner is so horrible, what does that say about your choices? People need to learn that unless there is abuse or danger involved, they need to keep the drama to themselves and learn to PRAY or seek counselling.
Most times outside people dont want to get involved anyway!


I was 18 when I got married, and still mature enough to know it wouldnt pay to do that. I was married three years, and actually got separated before anyone in my family actually knew we ever argued. It was a shock to all. And when we separated, they still never fully knew why. My mom just said, Im here for you if you need to talk, and left it at that. I always knew that once you blab your business to otheres, they hold the grudge much longer than you ever will! And if you are 'grown' enough to be in an adult relationship-be grown enough to learn conflict resolution and communication!


The bible says Leave and CLEAVE, Leave and CLEAVE...you are supposed to learn to resolve stuff on your own, not drag the whole clan into it. Some women do that so that they can get sympathy, and play the victim. Some men do it so they have an excuse to 'leave' or cheat. Either way, its immature, and wrong. You end up making it impossible to be together peacefully.

ONCE YOU LET EVERYONE IN, YOU CANT GET THEM BACK OUT!

..And a special 'shame on you' to those grown adults who involve thier kids in thier fighting. Attempting to turn the kids against the spouse, or other parent. That is the lowest level of immaturity possible. Keep your kids out of your business as well, before you scar them for life...you need to grow up TWICE.


#keepittoyourself  #growup

Start where you are....

‎"Don't wait for something big to occur. Start where you ARE, with what you HAVE, and that will always lead you into something greater."~ Mary Manin Morrissey. Want to start a business? Start with a PC and phone line, get a PO Box, Brand your name, and make business cards. What are you waiting on?!
I have started several businesses. Its easy to go downtown, get a license, and set up yourself. Insurance is also oftentimes inexpensive. You can buy Business Plan Pro and create a plan good enough to qualify for a small business loan, as long as you have your plans tight.

So, taking my own advice....I enrolled in college. I decided, what the heck am I waiting for? I got my transcripts from 13 years ago when I last took classes, and just decided to do 'something'. It was so motivating helping my daughters apply, and I figured, how can I tell them that education is important, and I haven't completed my own? *lightbulb moment*


We met with Penny Hardaway too last weekend, and presented the "LOL Youth Org" to him, he was amazed and excited. he wants to be a part of it, so I created 'Let's BALL" (becoming a Legendary Leader) just for him, and he was blown away. I just KNOW its time for my gifts and talents to pay off. I may also get a paid position teaching at the church if this presentation goes well...we shall see! ~Pray for me!  

MOPSS: God isn't your personal 'Matchmaker!'

God isn't your personal 'matchmaker'! It burns me up when folks use Him to secure a relationship (God SAID we supposed to be together) keep someone from leaving you (You're supposed to stay cuz God said Forgive me) or even worse, to manipulate another's mind (If you was Christian, you would...) Lying on/using God for your own SELFISH purposes~will quickly bring curses upon you! 
When you get saved, there is a whole slew of folks who have never actally READ the bible, telling you how Christians are supposed to act, and suddenly it seems that they know what God needs to tell you. LOL -as if God cant tell me for Himself. My pastor once said manipulating the mind is the same as witchcraft, and anyone who attempts it is just as guilty.

People use guilt, fear, shame and a Christians love for God to twist thier will. And God doesnt even do that, because he gives us FREE WILL!!! To do right or wrong, follow Him or not. I have even seen men use the bible to get people to have sex with them. UGHH!

This is why Christians have such a BAD reputation! People treating God as if He is thier personal Wild card. This was wrong from slavery to now. If we really knew the word, we would know that much of the things people SAY is in the bible, isnt even there.

I have seen women and men be hateful and abusive, and then turn around and say "Let's pray for me...please dont leave me." And these same people will barely step foot in church before all this. 

Love isnt about any of those things...and if someone says they love you, but is jealous, envious, rude, self-seeking, and boastful, its AINT love!! Bottom line! 1 Cor 13 tells what true love is! 


I have seen many women fall victim to men who claim to be so 'spiritual' and read the bible with the ladies, comforting them, reciting scripture, going to church with them, and counseling them (which is really the job of another woman-according to the bible) and soon they get involved sexually, because now the women has fallen in love with the God she 'sees' in him. Afterwards, they both slowly leave church, and the man got what he was looking for in the first place. Its a dangerous game to play when you pretend to be 'spiritual' for your own purposes. True Hypocrites/Fakes/Liars!

The bible says true worship is simply obedience. So if they were really all that  'spiritual', they would have referred this woman to another woman that can minister to her, prayed for her, and kept themselves from adding to that woman's hurt,misery, and confusion by getting sexual with her.

If A MAN IS TRULY SPIRITUAL, he will be abstinent, celebate, and living what he preaches-and encourage you to do the same!! If he is telling you that he is 'trying' and/or 'fighting the urges' it is BS..he is walking on the FENCE, and playing both sides. He is likely a spiritual manipulator. #beware