We all know that many people nowadays are insensitive to the needs and feelings of others. I have noticed as of late that these are the times of "Keeping it Real" and "Telling it like it is" at the expense of the other persons emotional health and feelings.(ie. Kanye/Taylor Swift incident) No longer is sensitivity training being taught to the next generation, and kids are not realizing the difference Being 'Real', and simply having bad manners and a rude disposition.
...But, on the other hand... these rude, hurtful people could also be hurting themselves inside, and lashing out at others as a result. A vicious cycle, when really examined closely.
I have seen relationship posts on Facebook where women are begging to be loved and understood, and men are turning away and saying 'you are too deep/sensitive for me' and vice versa. There are alot of hurting people out there, mostly being hurt by other hurting people. When does it end, and people treat others with love, compassion and resect?
I love this analogy, "Taken from 'How to comfort the hurting.'..
"If you were treating the open wounds of accident victims you would realize that the most gentle, well-meaning touch could send patients reeling. You would not be offended if someone you were seeking to help lashed out in pain with almost involuntary action. You would half expect it. But imagine the confusion if the wounds were invisible and the person looked uninjured. Consider the further complication if in that person’s experience everyone who had tried to help (and how does he know you will be any different?) had in their ignorance done little but inflict pain.
That’s the norm for someone who is hurting inside.
Emotionally wounded people cannot help but be highly sensitive. Words hit them like whips. It is vital that they be treated verbally with the careful tenderness you would use if you were dressing gaping physical wounds. Once we understand the seriousness of emotional wounds, it’s surprisingly easy to employ the Christlike graces of turning the other cheek and using the soft answer that turns away wrath.
When we realize an outburst is just the pain talking, we no longer take it to heart. Only a fool takes personally the actions of someone drunk with pain."
There is no excuse for being rude and disrespectful. But let's try for a minute to look at everyone through Gods eyes, and maybe understand that alot of it is rooted in deepest inner pain and insecurities, we will be less quick to harshly judge and hurt them even further. Sometimes we give up too quickly on those whom God sends our way to help. The prison system is filled with hurt people who lashed out at a society that they didnt think cared about them, and gave up on them.
Instead of attacking them, how can we make a difference in thier lives? Do you know someone in your own life who just cant seem to be positive, ever? Who is rude, and aggresively annoying? Can we look beyond our own offense, and extend God's Love towards them..even while they are doing things you dont necessarily like? Even most Christians dont do this regularly, and instead chose to run and hide from what they consider an 'evil society'. .although it is called for them to show love and minister daily by virtue of thier own beliefs. How else will those people ever get to know the Love of God?
"Beloved, let us love one another, for Love is of God, and everyone that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. He that loveth not, knoweth not God, for God is Love."
1st John 4:7-8.
Use God's example,( if you are not sure how to love the unloveable)... He sees past OUR hurt, and our sins, into our hearts, and loves us still.
Just a though for today...
We have to be accountable for the collateral effect of our acts as well as the times when we sit idle. While we serve ourselves by serving each other, we also deplete ourselves as we deplete one another. GREAT POST!
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